Acknowledge your “odd” inclinations!

Acknowledge your “odd” inclinations!

Acknowledge your “odd” inclinations!

Having (still) a slightly negative connotation, fetishes are assimilated to those behaviors that should not be spoken about in public. Not necessarily because they would be part of the “shameful” sphere of social life, but because one thing is when a man boasts that he sleeps with a girl and another issue is when the same man admits to his friends that he did it only after he put on a pair of stockings and has danced graciously, on high heels, in front of her. However, obsessions regarding certain objects, activities or non-erotic body areas (to which a sexual substrate is attributed) are part of normality. Indeed, a normality not yet assumed by all. But as long as its adherents maintain their physical and mental health, do not burn their homes, do not terrorize their neighbors, and hit no one onto their heads (literally), things can be considered at least reasonable.

People often feel ashamed of the practices they deal with in intimacy and pose in the best of the earthmen. They prefer to deny that they have experienced erotism and doing “otherwise”, to avoid the plea of ​​disapproving, non-glamorous and cold looks of the entourage. Obviously that too generous disclosures are damaging to those who sniff the unshaved feet or urinate (onto) their partner, but neither the intense embarrassment nor refusal of consciously embracing their “strangeness” bring happiness.

The idea of ​​feeling good in your own skin is more than a slogan spoken out (chanted) by the followers of the old hippies at the music festivals and could thus actually get the title of the essential condition of personal balance.

That's why it is recommended that you accept your “odd” inclinations, without becoming a bizarre character in your own vision (or of the others around):

1.-Fetishes spice up any adventure. Lacking value in itself, the habit of licking shoe heels, of letting go completely immobilized and “used” to be spanked, spit or sworn, or of consuming the sexual intercourse in a narrow box of cardboard, remove routine from life and life from routine. The wide array of novelty to be introduced into the bedroom is infinite. Everyone chooses what tempts them. After all, the charm of non-conformism lies precisely in the absence of any kind of obligation. It would be at least ironic for someone to try atypical experiences (whether they like it or not) just because the one wants to be with “others” and not with the rest of the world.

2.-Fetishes are testing the limits. Many feel tempted by various fantasies, but they are afraid to implement them. What if they lose their minds because they admit to walk in the leash through the house? The curiosity of using the whip, taking over the identity and attitude of a “slave”, dressing in latex, or using a gas mask during “mating” remain unfulfilled. Reserves bring frustrations over time, and frustrations create, as is already known, discomfort, gray hair and dissatisfaction. So why not throw them off the window, along with the impression that ignoring certain needs will annihilate them as if by wonder? You can find out the limits only when you brace yourselves and do what you feel you need to do.

3.-Fetishes excite and bring satisfaction. People develop various weaknesses in relation to some forms of assuming sexuality, since these weaknesses stimulate them, animate their libido and delight their senses the way other pleasures do not. Could there be a better argument in favor of “paraphilias” than that it exposes in full ecstasy and clarifies live what a state of well-being means? For sure that it does not. Is it of any importance that some of them are frightened by making love in chains while others are into it instantly? That pubic hair causes other reactions other than... “Shave it off!”? That anal balls have both fierce opponents and fans? Certainly, NOT! Whoever treads with joy at the thought of extravagant “stuff” should not be impressed by the fact that the great majority of the acquaintances question their “usefulness”. It matters to have whom to live one’s reveries with in a harmonious agreement. And (possibly) at a good price.

4.-How do we manage the inclination towards the fetish? Why do people choose to come together in strange ways to “take advantage of” those who sleep, to have orgasm “upon order” or to (with or without adequate costume) get into the role of fictitious characters to get rid temporarily of their own personality? These hypostases respond to certain needs, have a plausible explanation and exceed by far the level of eccentric whim. In addition, the alleged “slippages” have been removed from the psychiatric textbooks (except in the case of “serious” instances) and correspond to complex formulations of approaching sexuality.

On the other hand, there are situations (quite (rather) rare), in which fetishes may have some degenerative, somewhat bad or rather unpleasant evolution.

How can you identify them?
a).-The lust (good mood) is delayed in the absence of the “miraculous element”. That is, nothing happens “down” there, despite the tempting breasts or bodybuilder muscles nearby. Nothing. Not a breath of wind.

b).-The “obsession” consumes your time, energy and money so you cannot handle anything else. The boss calls desperately because you have not showed up at work for long, parents are convinced that the terrorists have kidnapped you, the official partner is already thinking with whom to share the rest of the days.

c).-Health suffers from specific abuses. Unconventional customs get out of control, and (for example) the spanking moderately administered at the start and in an “artistic” manner, gains connotations of extreme aggression, role-playing episodically initiated extend beyond the intimate area (that is, they are no longer just games), common everyday work and activities are cumbersome. You lose your landmarks.

d).-The frantic love partners no longer answer you on the phone or say that they would rather get hit by the train than to spend another night in your company.

How do escorts and fetishes come together? Excellently! However, the distinguished beings with the role of “lady companions” and charismatic princes also known as “gigolos” must be carefully chosen, for some of them resonate only with the traditional side of the activity they practice, and the whip, the handcuffs, dominance or the “golden showers” are not exactly something they like.

What to do in this case? First, look for a person with experience and inclination towards this area. Avoid letting yourself on anyone’s hands.

Secondly, discuss in advance and in detail the “scenario” you envisage to adopt. Do not let the intrigue in the bedroom in the hands of fate and make sure that your partner has fully understood what you wish it would follow.

Third, do not neglect space and props. If you dream of a sex party in public, exclude from the relevant options the bench in front of the City Hall or the central park. There are differences between hunting safely, cold craving on the back of the spine... and doing it at the price of liberty or a high priced fine. It would be Ideal to set the details responsible for the triumph of the encounter before it starts. Sometimes (depending on the context), spontaneity is not such a good idea.

Fourthly... Have fun!

Good luck!