About dominating the dominatrix...

About dominating the dominatrix...

About dominating the dominatrix...

Many men (and not only) secretly dream about strong women who will dominate them, "educate" them with the whip and make them crawl at their feet, possibly equipped with collar and uncomfortable tights. True daredevils dream to be authoritarian masters themselves, but not in relation to any kind of ladies, but to those born with the whip in their hand… the dominatrixes. While most of them fail, being known the males' tendency to underestimate their female partners, the lucky ones are able to tame even the rebel specimens by definition. How do these ignorant heroes, to whom statues and odes have not yet been dedicated to (even though they would fully deserve it)? By resorting to the following tricks with guaranteed effect, if and only if they exude authenticity.

 

Establishing and maintaining visual contact. The ideal of supremacy between the sheets and stare into the abyss, such as money spent on lottery tickets, reject each other. Visual contact is the first step in the not easy at all attitude of "subjugation”. It reflects confidence and self-assurance.

If the mistress longing for veneration faces her lover looking directly into his eyes, the men interested to lead will act the same way. The one who concedes first loses the battle and becomes the "doll" of the other.

With vast experience in the field, the dominatrixes rely on defiance and intimidation, two classic tactics, suspected to cause the quick retreat of the "opponent". In opposite situations, holding the ground confuses them, weakens them and diminishes their authority, prompting them to leave the guard down, at which moment the knight warriors can quietly celebrate their victory. The fight has been won (not the war, for ladies do not give up so easily).

There are also unfortunate cases (in the "NO" category), when the man's shyness, excess of unwarranted zeal and other partial shortcomings turn what would be a demonstration of power into a pathetic look of a dictator deprived of his medication. Beware, then! The line between an imposing attitude and a visibly ridiculous one is extremely thin.

 

Taking over the initiative and exercising control. Regardless of what they say while they proudly clench their fists, males adore female "playmates" who take the initiative. But too much of something can be bad! Whoever takes comfort in a submissive position, waiting for things to be moved by her, the only wearer of pants and worthy of being "on top", can now make an appointment at the beauty salon. The chances of turning into a shy young lady with complex feelings reach the superlative.

Renouncing to the initiative represents the sure way of not dominating a dominatrix. Its reverse is the explicit role determination, even from the start. The one who sets the tone of the party and wins the top spot, also wins the title of absolute leader of the game.

The "recipe" says that, for an undeniable success, the mistress eager to get into the saddle must be tamed with the "whip" (metaphorically, of course), tempered when she begins to manifest her aggressiveness. Only when immobilized, with minimal gentleness and kept this way until she abdicates helplessly, she can be completely dominated. Bonus: the physical accents reached by this little game of power will nicely spice up the interaction.

 

Oral sex and the dosage of pleasure. The woman who, while sexually teased by the man, gets to beg, is a lost cause. Lost for her goal of being a "dominatrix". Males need to know and use all possible weapons through which they can convince their female partners to let their guard down. Oral sex turns out to be a hopeful ally in this sense, a way to crucify the victim's senses on the altar of pleasure. No matter how authoritative they might behave in the bedroom, ladies become very submissive if their right buttons are pushed, meaning their primordial weakness: the clitoris.

Exploring the area and delaying the desired "discharge" right before the climax (through the attention paid to other parts of the body and the calculated return to the hot spot) will eventually make the female beneficiary of the erotic-malicious treatment to go crazy. The unpredictable mixture of stimulation and frustration will make her beg for liberation, to depend on the (good) will of the "torturer" altogether and to abandon her plans of domination in favor of orgasm. 1-0 for the man.

 

Verbalization and dirty language. Threats work in any context: in love, in business, in politics, in the bedroom. Silent individuals have a weak chance of begin in control, especially if their attitude, appearance or practice relevant in this domain is not helping them. Talkative people - those who are not afraid to make hot promises like "I will give it to you hard until you lose your consciousness" and to believe what they say, are clearly advantaged.

Obscene words, languorously whispered in the ear, and the realistic descriptions of the "horrors" about be released over the woman captive in the hands of a perverse monster can open the legs of even the most insensitive representatives of the female sex.

Such an approach denotes self-confidence, versatility and erotic fantasy. It is, therefore, required a multitude of dirty speeches. The more these "threats" are detailed (associating credibly the erogenous areas with the spicy scenarios) and indecent (invoking censored expressions even in porn movies), the more the ladies will be receptive, ending up by waving the white flag and frantically calling the name of their partner. Bull’s eye!